Here is a singular account of some comments* and responses that have happened over email. I think publishing them here, as a post, adds great value. It gives a glimpse into how, an outsider (Non-Hindu, Non-Indian) could be affected by Caste system and the practice of Arranged Marriages. I think this reader’s story will resonate with a lot of other readers as well.
Here we go …
I am glad that my blog has been able to help you to come to a resolution regarding this delicate and troubling matter that you are presented with. You have my fullest sympathies with regards to the whole turn of events that you were subjected to. As mentioned in my blog, Hindu religion enforces “marriage within caste” and all Hindus will adhere to it. So please realize that your Ex was bound by rules of his religion and had no chance to stand against it. It is highly unfortunate that a religion should value mutual exclusion by virtue of caste as more fundamental than Love and Equality, but that is the nature of the beast that we are dealing with.
I greatly commend you for your commitment to Love, and Live in the moment. While this maybe trying at this time, be rest assured that you are way ahead of some us in terms of being able to love and enjoy the moment and not being held hostage to the end result. I also think that having made the resolution to move on you will in the very near future find new sources of inspiration and love and be all the more appreciative of the same.I hope that you will continue to appreciate my blog and provide me with valuable feedback and encouragement that will give me purpose and strength to continue with my fight against Caste System and Untouchability.Sincerely,
I am glad I could help you. However, you should always remember that it was your keen insight and relentless search for an answer that has guided you out of this predicament and has also strengthened you to move on and experience a new life and face any future challenges with courage and conviction. My one last suggestion in this matter would be to completely close this chapter and move on. I think that it will be in the best interests of all three of you and more so for you to do so. You are in no way obliged to ensure the happiness of your Ex or his wife. He moved out and married her, and by doing so he himself relieved you of any obligation towards his happiness or anyone he is linked with. I think any further correspondence (phone, email or even text) will only open old wounds and present you with challenges that will hold you back from moving on and exploring new possibilities. So good luck.
*Posted as agreed upon by the commenter. Thanks, Ms. M for sharing your story!